I heard on a podcast that the root of both arrogance and insecurity is pride. It’s something I never really thought about before, but whether arrogant or insecure, your focus is on yourself.
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This past week I gathered with a group of girls that are interested in studying the Bible together. We all had great conversation, got to know each other a little bit, and shared some of our goals for this semester. The entire evening was very wholesome.
Then, I went home. And boy, oh boy was I overwhelmed with insecurity! I compared myself to these girls in every aspect: hair length, body shape, fashion sense, career path, relationship status, extracurricular activities, you name it!
My pride had turned a sweet, meet-and-greet night into a comparison battle. Instead of looking up at God and over at the amazing women I was with, I was looking down, focused only on myself.
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Recently I’ve been going back through one of my old Bible studies on the story of Rachel and Leah. Talk about a comparison game!
These sisters were constantly comparing what they had or didn’t have to one another. (I encourage you to study this story–it’s packed with family drama and God’s faithfulness).
One verse that really stood out to me in their story is Genesis 30:13. After going back and forth trying to one-up each other, Leah made the statement, “How happy am I! The women will call me happy.”
“God’s blessings for one person are never meant to be a burden for someone else.”1
When I sat with the Christ-seeking women, I should not have focused on what they have compared to what I have. Instead, I should have (not only externally but genuinely) celebrated their successes and blessings from God.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice…” (Romans 12:15)
Pride could ruin a lot of special nights, conversations, and encounters. Are you going to let it? Or will you look up and look around? It’s not about us.
1 This is from the study called Rachel and Leah by Nicki Koziarz
Loved this, Ashley!
Save all your blogs and maybe write a book. ❤️📔